If you have children who still live in your house, moving after a divorce can present some unique challenges. While there is a desire to start fresh in a new place, this may not be in your child’s best interest or even possible due to child custody regulations.
The Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act regulates which state has jurisdiction over custody issues if a child moves and in addition, each state has their own individual child custody laws as well. In general, you have to prove that a move would benefit your child more so than staying in his or her hometown/home state.
If you are co-parenting after a divorce, communication with your ex is going to be a necessary part of raising your family. Many people had communication issues during the marriage and will still feel those same frustrations in the discussions they have with their exes. Remember when you are talking to your ex that you are communicating to help your children. It is important to maintain calm and focus on conflict-free communication.
We love this helpful list from the HelpGuide on how you can initiate and maintain effective communication:
Use a business-like tone. Mentally try to look at your relationship with your ex-spouse as a business partnership and your “business” is ensuring the children’s well-being. So, in all your communications treat them as you would a work colleague.
Ask, don’t tell. Instead of telling your ex what you want, which when emotions are running high, can be construed as a demand, try rephrasing as much as you can as a question like, “Are you open to trying…?” or “Would you be willing to…?”
According to Forbes, there are some costly mistakes that women make when going through a divorce. Here are a few that we see in many of the divorce cases that we represent:
Texting in Anger
Texting leaves a digital trail and will often be saved only to be presented out of context. Consider taking deep breaths and contemplating sending the text message off. It can be helpful to write in a journal all of your thoughts and if the next day you feel the same way then you could send what you wrote in a text or email.
Social Media Posts
The things that you post on social media can be presented against you in court. Status updates, online photo albums, comments, tweets, and Instagram photos can all be used as evidence to contradict statements previously made. They can help prove infidelity, mishandling of assets, emotional instability, alcohol/drug use and more.
Divorce can be difficult for everyone. Even in the most amicable divorces, the family unit as you know it is split. Many times, the parents want to stay equally involved in their children’s lives and joint custody the best way to do this.
Determining child support calculation for joint custody will depend on each parent’s respective incomes. If both parents have the same net income, neither parent may have to pay the other child support. If there is a disparity between net incomes, where one parent is earning more than the other each year, the higher earning parent may have to pay some child support to the other parent. However, it is important that all offsets are factored in, including: payment of health insurance, daycare, filing status and tax exemptions.
Chris LaFrance Collaborative Divorce Attorney Advice
Chris LaFrance Collaborative Divorce
Chris LaFrance Collaborative Divorce Attorney has extensive experience in helping couples navigate a difficult time in their lives. He believes in Collaborative Divorce because of the positive outcomes he has witnessed was families going through divorce.
However, if you need more convincing, according to CollaborativeDivorce.net, there are several reasons why choosing a Tampa Collaborative Divorce Attorney could be in your family’s best interest for an amicable divorce…
1. You each have more control over the outcome. You can voice your opinions and know that you will be heard.
2. You get to agree to settlement issues based on compromise and fair play instead of having a judge make the final decisions that affect your lives.
Chris LaFrance Tampa Collaborative Divorce Attorney
Collaborative Divorce Lawyer
We are proud to announce LaFrance Law’s, Chris LaFrance, recently became a certified Collaborative Divorce Attorney. This family law certification means that Chris LaFrance was extensively trained to negotiate mutually beneficial compromise that creates a friendlier and more peaceful environment for all the involved parties going through a divorce. Collaborative Divorce is advantageous to couples wishing to end their marriage without the usual anger and resentment divorces can bring to families.
In a collaborative divorce, both parties and their attorneys pledge to work in a cooperative manner to find and implement solutions to any disputes the divorcing couple may have in their individual case. Also, its focus is to see that the children aren’t affected in a negative way during the divorce process.
The three basic principles of Collaborative Divorce
At LaFrance Law, we value our clients and strive to make sure they are taken care of during a difficult time of their life. When people seek out a Tampa Divorce Lawyer, often they are facing some emotional strain or are confused or frustrated with the law process. We know Florida Divorce Law and our 20+ years of experience benefits our clients and helps them the most positive resolutions.
But don’t take our word for it, here’s what our former clients have to say (from Avvo.com):
Divorce Advice – Chris LaFrance Tampa Divorce Lawyer
We understand how overwhelming and scary divorcing your spouse can feel. It’s hard to think clearly and make good decisions during a highly charged emotional time. Every time I have an alimony modification or custody modification client hire me, I hear, “Looking back I wished I had done things differently.” It’s only once they move past the emotional time they often see where the results of the stress and how it affected their decision-making process and ultimately, hurt them in the long run.
Chris Lafrance Tampa Divorce Lawyer is experienced and can share some important tips with you:
1. Hire the right divorce attorney – You should feel comfortable speaking your divorce lawyer. Further, you should feel confident that they are qualified to understand your needs and help you get the outcome you desire.
In many states, when the police encounter a domestic violence situation one of the two parties involved in the dispute is required or requested to leave the home. Often, this person is the abuser, although the police can be mistaken about who the aggressor is. In about one-third of states, police officers are also authorized or required to remove guns when they arrive at the scene of a domestic violence incident.
In some states, the police can give the victim (or person believed to be the victim) an Emergency Protection Order (EPO). An EPO is a short-term protection order typically given to a victim by the police or magistrate when his or her abuser is arrested for domestic violence. The EPO is generally for limited period, such as three or seven days. This permits the victim time with an EPO in place to request a longer-term protection order.