Setting Personal & Relationship Goals in 2018

Setting Goals in 2018

Personal and Relationship New Years Resolutions

January not only kicks off the new year but it’s also the month that troubled couples begin to seriously debate getting a divorce. Issues that were ignored or pushed to the side during the holidays resurface and can often be the final straw for a relationship teetering on the brink of divorce.

Whether you’re debating moving forward with divorce proceedings or are currently in the middle of a divorce, creating personal goals provide you with something to strive for throughout the year and following a self care plan can not only improve your own situation, but also current and future relationships.

Set Personal Goals

Setting goals at the beginning of the new year has become common place for most people but often they’re vague and easily forgotten (lose weight, save money, etc.). That’s why it’s important to create goals that are specific, measurable and achievable. For example, if losing weight or saving money are part of your 2018 resolutions, add specific details such as “lose 10 pounds” or “save $1,000 a month” to use so you can measure your progress throughout the year.

A Self Care Plan is another way to set yourself up for success in 2018. Self care plans are a great way to establish positive physical and mental health habits that can benefit you for years to come.

Create a Self Care Plan

In a nutshell, a self care plan is an outline to remind you to put yourself first, especially during stressful times. These self care plans can also improve your communication skills as you become more in tune with your own thoughts and feelings. A few ways to begin implementing self care in your daily life include:

  • Keep a Journal – Take a moment at the end of everyday to reflect back on what brought you joy or positive moments in your day. This can include an accomplishment at work, hearing your favorite song on the radio or a new piece of macaroni art your child made at preschool. Using a journal is also a great way to unload any stressors from the day and create to-do lists to clear your head and give you a good night’s rest.
  • Give Yourself 10 Minutes a Day – Everyday, set aside 10 minutes that you will only focus on you and your body. Take this time to practice deep-breathing exercises or mindful meditation and check-in with your body.
  • Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle – Regular exercise has been proven to help alleviate the symptoms of depression and can boost self-esteem. If the idea of working out is groan-inducing, try signing up for a community sport or work out class which can help motivate you to follow through with the commitment.

A Google search of self care will bring up a plethora of additional self care ideas and inspiration so you can fine-tune your plan into something you look forward to using everyday.

Set Relationship Goals

Whether you’re in a relationship, separated or divorced, setting relationship goals not only helps to create a strong foundation for communication it also gives both sides an opportunity to express their expectations for the relationship.

For couples in the midst of a divorce, setting goals creates a framework of what each party is expecting from the other especially when communication is often at an all time low.

Children of separated parents can also benefit from these goals too. Their parents are able to work together to establish and complete different relationship and family-related goals which makes them better equipped to communicate with each other regarding their children’s health, happiness and best interests.

Relationship goals can be something as simple as taking a half hour at the end of the week to talk without the TV or technology interrupting, taking a walk around the block each night before bed or more in depth such as creating a shared calendar to manage children’s after-school activities and events so separated parents can stay involved and up-to-date, especially for important events.  

Whether you are in a new relationship, have been married for decades or are on the verge of divorce it is important to set goals for yourself and your relationships. Taking the time to evaluate where you are and where you want to be can give you insight into not only yourself but your relationships as well.